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Is fidelity necessary in a relationship?

In a couple, solidarity and fidelity are two sides of the same coin. The faithful sexual act is also a ritual which renews the pact of solidarity by making the other unique on a sensitive level. If we remove loyalty, what is solidarity? Fear? Duty? Social pressure?

On the other hand, the seducer, by obtaining the consent of the other (or even the simple acceptance of his domination), proves his attractiveness, his power, and reassures himself. This is therefore an act linked to social ambition. In other words, infidelity is always the product of one of the partners who has poor control of his ego or his social ambition, and endangers the couple.

The new age vision of sexual freedom

By brandishing slogans such as "make love, not war", the '68 movement conveyed an image of sexuality which was only a search for sharing pleasure.
However, at the level of the sexual act, humans partly release their animal instincts. He therefore advances on a ridge between two abysses which are on one side too much mental control which prohibits access to enjoyment, and on the other too great taking of freedom which would lead to respecting only the different desire on the other sets limits to his own desire.

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Refer to questions 'Why do you need to control your ego?' And 'Why is minimality desirable?'.