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Why is love for one's neighbor not a solid foundation for living together well?

The true foundational work consists in discarding one's beliefs and fears, so as finally to accept taking into account the facts that are disturbing.

Let us recall here the four steps of effective problem-solving:
1. Recognize the problem.
2. Conduct a serious analysis.
3. Develop a solution, often partial.
4. Implement it.
Discarding one's beliefs is the basic tool that enables a serious, unbiased analysis, while discarding one's fears is the basic tool that allows determination in implementation and, often, the courage to recognize the problem.Freeing oneself from one's fears is the basic tool that enables determined implementation, and often also provides the courage to recognize the problem.

In fact, self-deception can lead what the author perceives as an act of love to have a negative, or even devastating, effect on the recipient.
And if, moreover, the author is somewhat psychopathic, this becomes general; loving another person becomes synonymous with merging with them, where only the self ultimately remains.

Furthermore, a lack of courage causes love for one's neighbor to manifest primarily as good intentions, prayers, which can be likened to moral 'greenwashing'.

The voice of devotion (loving God, loving one's neighbor) therefore appears as an exceptionally demanding path. It presupposes low social ambition, to avoid self-deception as a product of cognitive dissonance, as well as considerable courage, to translate into action; it is thus likely reserved for a very small number of individuals with very particular predispositions.

Deepen

The question 'The myth of listening and good atmosphere' exposes another facet of illusory altruism.
Consult the question 'What must one do to be a good person?'