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Why is love for one's neighbor not a solid basis for living well together?

The real groundwork is getting rid of your beliefs and fears.

Let us recall here the four stages of effective treatment of a problem:
1. Notice the problem.
2. Conduct a serious analysis.
3. Develop a solution, often partial.
4. Implement it.
Getting rid of your beliefs is the basic tool for conducting a serious, unbiased analysis.
Getting rid of your fears is the basic tool allowing you to lead the implementation with determination, and very often also to have the courage to notice the problem.

In fact, lying to oneself can lead what the author perceives as an act of love to have a negative, even devastating, effect on the recipient.
And when the author is also slightly psychopathic, this becomes general; loving the other becomes synonymous with merging with them, where only one ultimately remains.

Furthermore, the lack of courage leads the love of one's neighbor to translate mainly into good intentions and prayers, which can be compared to moral “green washing”.

The voice of devotion (loving God, loving one's neighbor) therefore appears to be a particularly demanding path. It presupposes low social ambition, to avoid lying to oneself as a product of cognitive dissonance, as well as a lot of courage, to translate into action, and is therefore probably reserved for a very small number of individuals with very predisposed particular.

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