Do not judge

What is usually meant by 'not judging': not expressing a negative opinion about a person.
What should be understood by 'not judging': not opposing what should be to what is.

The motivations behind the injunction not to issue a negative opinion about a person

At first glance, 'Don't judge others' may seem like a mark of tolerance, and is generally claimed as such.
Except that when we look more closely, the motivations that lead to highlighting the freedom of everyone to think what they want, and act as they see fit, are generally:

•	Not having to oppose the group, without having to admit to yourself that you are a coward.

•	To be able to indulge without constraint in the game of alliances, with a view to obtaining power and a more favorable social position.

However, when judging, it is advisable to choose the criteria carefully:

good criterion	bad criterion
what the person does	what the person says
	facade respectability
facts	the beliefs
the collective interest

Do not oppose what should be to what is

As soon as one interposes 'what should be' between oneself and what is, one disempowers oneself.

Remember that adopting the right attitude means applying Epictetus's recommendation: when faced with a problem, separate what depends on you from what does not depend on you.

Here is an example of an interposition of what should be: “People should be less materialistic”.

Deepen

Consult questions:
Qu'est-ce que la non-dualité bouddhiste ?
How to be successful in life?

2022-07-26 17:37:00 Hubert following Cyril's comment Text to review

• Expliciter le rejet de ne pas juger habituel qui est un appel au jeu des alliances et au manque de courage.
• Le texte actuel ne montre pas que Epictète est l'action qui correspond à la représentation de la non dualité (ne pas opposer ce qui devrait être à ce qui est).

2022-09-12 15:04:03 Hubert

Texte refondu.

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