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How to overcome fear?
Fear is often what prevents us from living our lives to the fullest. Overcoming your fear is therefore essential to be able to make the necessary changes, and accept the associated risk-taking. However, it is essential to carry out work in parallel to get rid of our beliefs so as not to engage in chimerical paths in which we end up losing contact with the facts, lying to ourselves, and ultimately causing harm. seriously to others without even realizing it.
Objective
We don't know a recipe for removing fear completely. Moreover, in small doses, fear is probably useful, because it invites us to be vigilant and fully involved.
The objective is therefore simply to be able to overcome your fear, that is to say, to have actions directed by your reason and not by your fears.
Analyze the effects of fear
The approach we recommend consists of seeking to identify cases where fear has taken over, which are of two types:
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Not having tried, out of fear
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The final decision is the product of fear, opposed to reason
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Methods to regulate fear
Techniques to reduce the level of fear are:
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Risk avoidance (inhibition, routine)
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Experimenting with minimality (better identify our non-basic needs)
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Compensate for your fear with pleasure
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Work one's own Cognitivo-affective system To limit irrational fear resulting from past experiences.
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Face your fear with his reason
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The objective at this level is to limit the use of avoidance.
Furthermore, when fear is linked to uncertainty about the future, we need to identify what depends on us or not, in order to be able to act on what depends on us:
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The game of alliances is a source of fear, because it is versatile. We can opt for more sincere human relationships, but less effective in terms of social progression.
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Impermanence is also a source of fear, and almost the only option we have is to live fully in the present moment.
Seeking a certain minimality in one's life also helps limit the fear of being downgraded and, more generally, anxieties about the future.
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Go deeper
See question 'Should you listen to your emotions?'.
Concerning the game of alliances, refer to the questions 'What are the consequences of social ambition?' And 'How to succeed in life?'.
Refer to question 'What is impermanence?'to understand how best to deal with it, and the question'Why is minimality desirable?' to understand the method to follow, and the benefits linked to minimality.
Finally, to understand the work to be carried out in addition to the regulation of fear, refer to the question 'How to succeed in life?'