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Is fidelity necessary in a couple?

In a couple, solidarity and fidelity are two sides of the same coin. The faithful sexual act is also a ritual that renews the solidarity pact by making the other unique in the emotional sense. If we remove fidelity, on what does solidarity rely? Fear? Duty? Social pressure?

On the other hand, the seducer, by obtaining the other's consent (or even just their simple acceptance of his dominance), proves to himself his attractiveness, his power, and reassures himself. This is therefore an act linked to social ambition. In other words, infidelity is always the product of a partner who poorly manages his ego or social ambition, thus putting the couple at risk.

The New Age vision of sexual freedom

By using slogans such as 'Make love, not war', the 1968 movement promoted an image of sexuality that would merely be a search for pleasure sharing.However, at the level of the sexual act, the human being partially releases animal instincts. Thus, it moves along a ridge between two abysses: on one side, excessive mental control that prevents access to pleasure, and on the other, excessive freedom that leads to no longer respecting the other's boundaries and limiting one's own desires.

Go deeper

Refer to the questions 'Why is it necessary to control one's ego?' and 'Why is minimalism desirable?'.